Posts Tagged ‘Advice’

Don’t Get Gay

June 22, 2012


As you face the giddy world, young friend, don’t ever try to hide
Your sense of noble manliness and conscientious pride;
Hold up your head in fearless way, look duty in the face,
And in the field of enterprise strive hard to set the pace.
Be independent in your acts, but never crow too loud,
Put forward every honest trait with which you are endowed;
In carving out your course in life fear not to have your say,
And say it independently, but

If you by fortune have been blessed with talent more than those
You meet in life’s unequal ranks, don’t tread upon their toes,
And if at education’s fount you’ve liberally drank,
Pray don’t imagine you’re the only turtle in the tank.
Combine your manly dignity with modesty and grace, —
A watch is never valued by the glitter of its face —
Remember, like your fellow men, you’re but a house of clay
To crumble into dust again; so

Though as a sparkling jewel in society you shine,
Though flatterers may tell you you’re just awfully divine,
Though pretty girls may flood you with their ever-ready smiles —
And strive to hold you captive in the network of their wiles,
Don’t think you are a demi-god of semi-human birth,
Don’t think you hold a mortgage overdue upon the earth,
Don’t tilt your nose too loftily or some time they may say,
You’re more the peacock than the man, so

The world admires a manly man of independent thought,
A man of nerve and enterprise with vim and rigor fraught,
A modest man content to be accepted at his worth,
But not a self-important cuss who thinks he owns the earth.
Don’t try to make the people think you’ve wit and sense to burn,
That what you don’t already know ’tis not worth while to learn;
In setting in the game of life you’ll make a winning play
If you but use good common sense, and

— James Barton Adams, in Denver Post.

The Nebraska State Journal (Lincoln, Nebraska) Feb 12, 1899

The Rights of Women

March 20, 2012

Image from Assumption College


“The rights of women,” what are they?
The right to labor and to pray,
The right to watch while others sleep,
The right o’er others’ woes to weep;
The right to succor in distress,
The right while others curse, to bless;
The right to love whom others scorn,
The right to comfort all that mourn;
The right to shed new joy on earth,
The right to feel the soul’s high worth,
The right to lead the soul to God,
Along the path her Saviour trod —
The path of meekness and of love,
The path of faith that leads above,
The path of patience under wrong,
The path in which the weak gets strong;
Such women’s rights, and God will bless
And crown their champion’s with success.

Tioga Eagle (Wellsboro, Pennsylvania) Mar 28, 1849

Rena Goff animated image from the Historic Cooking School website


Permit us to say, to those mothers who interest themselves in the education of their children, be assiduous early to implant domestic tastes in the minds of your daughters. Let your little girl set by your side with her needle. Do not put her from you when you discharge those employments which are for the comfort of the family. Let her take part in them as fast as her feeble hand is capable. Teach her that this will be her province when she becomes a woman. Inspire her with a desire to make all around her comfortable and happy. Instruct her in the rudiments of that science whose results are so beautiful. Teach her that not selfish gratification, but the good of a household, the improvement of even the humblest dependent, is the business of her sex. When she questions you, repay her curiosity with clear and loving explanations. When you walk out to call on your friends, sometimes take her with you; especially, if you visit the aged, or go on errands of mercy to the sick and poor, let her be your companion. Allow her to sit by the side of the sufferer, and learn those nursing services which afford relief to him.

Associate her with you. Make her your friend. Purify and perfect your own example for her sake. And while you mingle with domestic training, and with the germ of benevolence, a knowledge of the world of books, to which it will be a sweet privilege to introduce her, should not be able not to add a single fashionable accomplishment, still be continually thankful in shielding her from the contagion of evil example.

Image from the Dickinson Journal


Trust not to uncertain riches, but prepare yourself for emergency in life. Learn to work, and not be dependent upon servants to make your bread, sweep your floors, and darn your stockings. Above all things, do not esteem too lightly those honorable young men who sustain themselves and their parents by the work of their own hands, while you care for, and receive into your company those lazy, idle popinjays, who never lift a finger to help themselves so long as they can keep body and soul together, and get sufficient to live in fashion.

Young women, remember this, and instead of sounding the purses of your lovers, and examining the cut of their coats, look into their hearts and habits. Mark if they have trades, and can depend upon themselves; see if they have minds which will lead them to look above a butterfly existence. Talk not of the beautiful white skin and the soft delicate hand — the fine appearance of the young gentlemen. Let not these foolish considerations engross your thoughts.

Tioga Eagle (Wellsboro, Pennsylvania) Mar 28, 1849

Good Counsel

January 17, 2012

Image from Gallery of Photgraphy

Good Counsel.

To the Editor of the Whig & Courier:

If you think the following scrap may be of service to any of our young men entering into life, you will please to insert it in you useful paper. It was taken from Mr. Sam’l Coates’s counting room over forty years since in Philadelphia. I think the direction good, and worthy to be got by heart by every young man engaged in business.


“In things of moment on thyself depend,
Nor trust too far thy servant or thy friend;
For private views thy friend may promise fair,
And servants very seldom prove sincere.
What can be done with care, perform to-day,
Dangers unthought of may attend delay;
Thy future prospects all precarious are,
And fortune is as fickle as she’s fair.
Nor trivial loss, nor trivial gain despise,
Mole-hills if often heaped to mountains rise;
Weigh every small expense and nothing waste,
Farthings long saved amount to pounds at last.

We return thanks to our venerable friend for the above and for other favors received from him. — Editor.

Bangor Daily Whig and Courier (Bangor, Maine) Jul 31, 1843

Image of Samuel Coates from Penn Medicine – University of Pennsylvania

I couldn’t find  a  biography at Wikipedia or other usual sources. Here is an excerpt from one at the American Philosophical Society.

Background note: Samuel Coates (1748-1830) was a prominent Quaker merchant, who was Treasurer of the Library Company of Philadelphia (1784-1793), Secretary and later President of the Board of Managers of the Pennsylvania Hospital (1786-1825), a member of the Overseers of the Public Schools of Philadelphia. (1812-1823) and a director of the original Bank of the United States (1800-1812). Coates was born in Philadelphia on August 24,1748, the son of Samuel Coates and Mary Langdale. His grandfather Thomas Coates had emigrated to Pennsylvania from Leicestershire, England in 1684. He lost both of his parents at an early age, but was placed under the care of John Reynell, a merchant, who married into the Coates family. Under Reynell’s guardianship Coates received a good classical and business education. In 1767 at the age of nineteen Coates was put in charge of a small commercial business in order to give him practical experience.

Read the rest here.